Connect Personally With Your Career Goals

11/21/2018

We have become obsessively goal-oriented and this is particularly the case with career goals. Are we personally connected to our goals or merely striving for goals for goals’ sake?

Career goals can frequently take on a life of themselves. I often hear the words, “I should…” preceding many conversations I have with clients about goals. And career goals can also become disconnected from the primary players. I hear this when clients express feeling completely stuck and indecisive in their lives.

When our focus, our expectations, our sense of self-worth, our internal narratives about success, progress or fulfillment are heavily focused on one intractable career goal, we can lose sight of the present moment and our living engagement in the personal process that brings our goal(s) to life.

When we live for goals that are primarily fueled by extrinsic motivation – social acceptance, recognition, respect, money, career advancement, self-esteem – we lose our personal connection, our personal involvement, motivation and striving. We lose the felt experience of personal engagement, we lose the ability to feel the value of what we are doing and the personal meaning of the process itself. 

When we are personally connected to the process of our lives, our goal(s) become feasible and meaningful by-products of that same process.

How can we stay personally connected to our goals?

  • Define personally and as descriptively as possible what career means, what fulfilling work means, even what success mean, to YOU at this stage in your life.
  • Connect the many experiences you have had and discover the common thread(s) between them. You are the common denominator in everything you do. What would you like to experience and develop further?
  • Be open and receptive to discovering yourself and your abilities in the present moment. Note and appreciate something that you have learned in the past few months or how a particular experience may have changed your perspective.
  • Take the time for reflective practice and be aware of the experiences you have on a daily basis.
  • Understand what you are feeling and how you experience your life throughout the course of a day.
  • Take the time to connect with the relationships and conversations around you every day. Feel the value of these relationships. Observe yourself in these relationships.
  • Engage, participate and contribute to your community, a course of study you are enrolled in, the job you currently have or the broader issues in the world that interest you. Connect with your opinions, attitudes, beliefs and actions.

These examples of reflective practice offer a great deal of personal information and help us to be connected to the present moment and actively and attentively engaged in the process of our lives. This is information that helps us to make decisions that resonate with who we are and give us the ability to take actions that we can confidently and comfortably move forward with. This is information that enables us realistically and imaginatively to mark out what is possible going forward. This information helps us to assess, construct, manage and navigate the many “small step” goals that we can accomplish daily. And finally, this is information that helps us to shift, adapt or re-design exciting new goals that we are personally connected to, if-and-when necessary.

Britt-Mari is an integrative career counselor with an extensive background in existential psychology, career counseling and teaching. She helps clients create personally empowered solutions to career transition, burnout and the building of meaningful careers. To inquire about customized 3 session coaching packages please contact her at brittmari@brittmarisykes.ca