An Existential Perspective on Work and Career Development

Existential career counseling assists and supports clients in exploring and reflecting upon the direction, purpose and meaning of their lives and their work.

Existential career counseling helps clients to deepen their awareness and perspective, to feel more connected to their experiences, their emotions, and their relationships.

Existential career counseling guides clients towards being more fully present in their daily lives and to feel more authentic and confident in their decisions, choices and actions.

  • Is It Okay To Feel Stuck?

    06/02/2021

    I hear this question frequently when clients contact me. This question is often accompanied by the belief that everyone else seems to know exactly what they want to do, that they have taken all the right steps and have chosen "wisely" in terms of career.

    The perception that everyone else has landed their ideal job or is comfortably settled in a "successful" career for the duration of their working lives is quite common.

    In reality, feeling stuck over career choices and career development post high school and post University/College is common. Feeling stuck when we are not fulfilled in our careers/jobs is in fact common. Feeling stuck when we are mid-career and we are facing a career transition (chosen or forced upon us) is increasingly common. And feeling stuck when we have reached retirement age and unsure as to how we can continue being engaged is also common.

    Is it okay to feel stuck? Yes!

    • It reminds us that the natural movement of our lives includes contemplating new possibilities, weighing choices, making decisions and shifting direction.

    • It nudges us to take pause, take stalk of our experiences and what we value, and to bring fresh perspective to our capacities, expertise and our growth.

    • It provides the space to acknowledge the different stages of our lives and to leverage the different versions of ourselves throughout our working lives. 

    • It gives us the opportunity to reflect on our definitions of meaningful, purposeful and fulfilling work and how these change throughout our lives.

    • It gives us a moment to ask ourselves: "what do I want to be involved in right now"? "what would I like to develop further at this point in my life"? "how do I want to contribute going forward"?

    Taking some time to discover what we are experiencing when we are stuck, deepens our self-awareness, builds our resilience and helps us to accept, and be a part of, the movement of our working lives.

    Feeling stuck? Contact Britt-Mari at brittmari@brittmarisykes.ca for more information on how an integrative and existential approach to career counseling can assist you in moving forward.

     

  • When Are Career Transitions Necessary?

    06/17/2021

    Many clients who contact me want a listening ear as they talk through the subject of career transition. They seek perspective on whether a change in job or profession may indeed be necessary.

    Career transitions, despite their frequency, are challenging and present us with a range of difficult decisions. Some transitions, such as job loss, are imposed on us and therefore are destabilizing because of the abrupt change they bring to our lives. These transitions can entail both a loss of professional identity and financial instability; they can shake our confidence in our skills and abilities.

    Some career transitions we deliberately choose to embark on. But even as we look forward to new experiences in our lives, we can be apprehensive about change, choices and the adjustments required, to say nothing of the impact all these can have on us and our subsequent decisions.

    I want to share 4 examples of when a career transition may be necessary. These examples draw on the many conversations I have with clients and their personal experiences.

    Lack of structure

    Until we are actively engaged in a job or career, we rarely reflect on how much structure and/or support we may need or want around us.

    Structure and support can mean many different things depending on the individual and the nature of the work.

    Some of us are quite comfortable with minimal structure, we flourish designing and organizing how and when we do things. We enjoy having different responsibilities and are confident navigating frequent changes in our work.

    Some of us require, and flourish equally well, within more structured environments. We want regular work hours, and we want consistency in our role(s) and responsibilities. Because of structure we feel engaged and confident in our abilities and our contributions.

    I have often listened to clients who feel lost in their work environments because of inadequate structure. For these individuals, the lack of structure casts their talents and skills adrift and over time they begin to feel less engaged, less confident and less committed to their jobs.

    Unintentional versus intentional career choices

    I have listened to clients who describe their initial career choice as “unintentional”. Their choice of study or training seemed like the best option or the most practical at the time, friends were entering the same University or College program, a specific job or professional field seemed stable or a “good career option”.

    Years later with more experience(s), perspective, and changes to their skill set, that unintentional choice doesn’t quite look or feel the same.

    I have written about the movement of our lives in relation to the movement of our work. Often the two do not move in tandem. We change, our perspectives change, we develop new interests, we may want more flexibility in our work and careers in order to balance the movement and expansion of our lives. Our skills and expertise can sometimes expand beyond the scope of our jobs.

    Suddenly we no longer relate to our work and we begin to feel unfulfilled. Suddenly we want to make a career choice that is more intentional and takes our present realities, livelihoods, capacities and values into consideration.

    Challenging work environments

    We know that work environments are not created equal. Some are more challenging than others.

    Shift work can have unpredictable hours. Some work can be regularly stressful; it can be physically demanding and/or pose a risk to our health because of constant exposure to chemicals and toxins. Work in which we are not sufficiently trained or work where we receive minimal support can present any number of challenges for us from lack of confidence in our abilities, to our disengagement, to experiences of unmanageable stress and possibly burnout.

    It is impossible to calculate at what point a challenging work environment is simply too much for us. A career transition may be necessary when the physical challenges and/or the stress of a job impede our skills, disrupt our capacity to do the job and negatively impact the personal satisfaction we get from our work.

    The shifting meaning and value of our work

    The meaning of work shifts at different stages of our lives and this can sometimes influence our willingness and decision to seek out new jobs and careers.

    At one stage of our lives work can mean personal and financial stability, at another it can be a satisfying marker of expertise and personal success. At another stage we may want work that is balanced with other areas of our lives to which we want to devote time and attention. And at some stages we may want work that aligns with our values and as such we may want to seek out work that feels purposeful and is centered on contribution. At any point in our lives, work may mean any combination of these.

     

    Do these examples resonate with your different experiences of work? Are you considering a career transition? Contact me at brittmari@brittmarisykes.ca for more information on my career transition coaching packages or to book a consultation call.