My clients frequently express a desire to experience the work they do as fulfilling. Can you elaborate on the experience of fulfillment from an Existential Analytic perspective?
Almost all human beings strive for a good life. They are ready and willing to do quite a lot to experience some happiness and they want their lives to be meaningful and substantial. The existential analytic perspective deals with this very human desire and deep longing. We see a primary motivation for life in this longing. The existential access to life has as a specific hot spot: activating and making use of our individual freedom. This freedom expresses itself in the degree to which we are fully present in our lives. Without my presence, without my personal engagement, in brief: without myself, I cannot become happy.
Life calls out to each of us personally. Only by freely responding, by fully participating and engaging in every moment and situation in my life do I create the basis for becoming happy. Psychologically speaking this is created when we live with inner consent.
Inner consent is defined as an internally felt yes to our actions, decisions or choices. “Yes, I feel in resonance with that”, “Yes, this is good, this is of value and important for me personally”, “I feel drawn to this and agree with my heart that what I am doing is right”. This is the deep connection with our inner freedom. Paying attention to this inner feeling of con-sent is crucial for an engaged and happy life. The result is: when I am fully present in what I do, I am so personally close and connected that I can feel the value of what I am occupied with. Doing so, I can permanently absorb the good in what I am doing. This warms my heart, this fills me with experienced values – this is what gives me ful-fillment.