The transformative power and art of conversation is an important area of your business and how you help your clients. Can you comment on this further by describing the specific work you do to help successful career individuals reconnect with their loved ones?
It all begins with a conversation. We’re often having conversations in our head that never see the light of day. Our intellect loves story and all the conversations we have inside ourselves is a brilliant strategy to keep us exactly where we are. There is great relief when we give voice to these conversations, out loud, and in the presence of another person. In many ways the conversations offer a peeling of an onion approach to getting at the roots of what’s happening with a person’s experience of connection. A major part of the process for me is to engage in conversations until what I call ‘the wave of information’ moves. These are all the bodily sensations (energy), what most refer to as emotions, that rise-up. When this happens, we stop talking. I then guide my clients through a process that invites them to let their body do all the processing of the energy and information. It’s a real switch from what we’ve been taught. Often when these sensations come up in conversation, we’re taught to stop them. They feel uncomfortable, inappropriate or sometimes just plain scary. Whether by changing the conversation, eating or by some other external substance or distracting the body in some other way. We’re not taught how to welcome them and how to view the intelligence they carry for us. In our connections with others, we develop many different strategies of relating to one another when these sensations show up for us.
When we release ourselves from the stories in our head we gain access to, and connect much deeper with, our true SELF. When we regain a deep connection with our selves, we’re able to connect more deeply with others. The result for my clients, they are able to connect at a much deeper level with their loved ones. Whether that be children, siblings, friends, parents or partners. Part of the releasing requires awareness.
I guide people through processes that help them to see and own their patterns of thinking and to develop an understanding around how these same patterns connect to their emotions, triggers and reactions. Once awareness occurs, then the choice presents. They are supported to choose and experiment with authoring a new story. It’s like learning a new dance, and because it’s about having lived experiences after a session, they go and live what they discovered. Often this means they have very different conversations with the people in their lives. It’s an invitation, and adjustment, for everyone, and every time it creates a bigger space for people to connect at a much deeper level. It’s not always pretty, or fun, but wow, in the end most could not imagine how their relationships change in such a short space of time.